Society teaches young children that femininity is bad. People roll their eyes at girls who are “little princesses,” and chastise their sons for “screaming like a girl.” Young girls who care about their appearance from a young age are seen as uppity and “high maintenance.” There is the age-old debate of how young is too young for girls to start wearing makeup, instead of letting the mini gal decide for herself what she wants to do and what makes her feel good.
There is a constant restraint of girls, contrasting the feats many go to in order to avoid admitting that their son might have a problem. Because, come on, boys will be boys, right?
We teach boys that being girly is wrong, and girls notice that correlation. So they grow up guilty for being a girl.
But then that girl hits a certain age, an age at which they’re expected to “settle down” and find a husband. Most college girls can relate to feeling pressured to find a prospective husband before they graduate, despite the fact that the average age of first marriage for women in the United States is 27 years.
Once a woman hits that certain age, they’re expected to put down childish things and become the lady they were destined (or expected) to be. Whatever that means. Wear girly clothes, but don’t look like a slut. Be flirty, but don’t be a whore. Go and get the man you want, but don’t be needy. Get an education and a job, only to quit and raise a family. Raise your children at home, but stop being lazy and make some money.
The entire life of a woman is being told what they’re supposed to be and how they’re supposed to act. It’s 2014, can we let women make their own choices yet?